Ever get stuck on the ‘ not – feeling- enough ‘ rut? Same.
Those feelings can always result back to the feeling of rejection & why things don’t seem to go as planned.
When I tend to have these moments ( yes, we all do) my mind can go all the way back to instances where I was not picked first in gym class, or the time when I was never the best at being a partner for a science project. Maybe you’ve been working hard all last year and you knew without a doubt that this is it – you’re getting a promotion, but they decided to choose sweet patty from the office down the hall. It’s okay, I love you but be proud of your girl Patty. It doesn’t mean that she is better than you, there’s just something else with your name on it coming your way that is just right for YOU.
1.Finding the Beauty in Rejection
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11 ESV
“A delay doesn’t mean denial. “
Rejection is believed to be purely negative, but really, rejection is more about perspective. It’s all about realizing a “no” right now could lead to a better “yes” in the future. I know you might of heard it once or twice, but rejection can be a good thing – a protection. Every good and bad thing that comes your way all serves a purpose. If you continue to view things negatively, you won’t grasp the blessing behind the rejection. It’s also about realizing that nothing is wrong with you. It is easy to cry and wonder what you did wrong. But if we continue to walk around with a victim mentality we will never walk out of the “no’s, not right now, it’s over, it’s done” victorious.
2. Above all else: Value YOU
Self worth plays a huge role in the way we attract richness into our lives – it’s inevitable, we all struggle with self worth. If we are really going to see the beauty in the no’s , we have to stop measuring our worth based on high’s and lows and of course, what sweet patty is doing. ( If you’re named patty, I’m sorry.. haha)
When we get hit with a response that we aren’t expecting, we have to come to the place of “ my worth has nothing to do with what I have or had or wanted and didn’t get at that moment, but it has everything to do with how I will react to the response by my emotions. “
Begin to value yourself and your journey by looking inwards – instead of outwards. You are an incredible human being and you are full of stories of triumph and courage, realize that no matter what your now looks like; you are worthy enough to have everything you desire. Life has a funny way of always working out.
3. Exchange Feelings of Lack with I am ENOUGH
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Eph. 2:10
Things defiantly weren’t what I thought my 2017 was going to look like, but I was still okay. Being rejected protected me, I began to value the lesson and learned to see the blessing in self worth. I want you to get to that place. SURE, it’s difficult, but the more you practice self love, you begin to see why things didn’t work out, and instead of being disappointed, you will be grateful because you know you deserve better. My advice: Grab a journal and write 10 love affirmations to yourself
I am incredible
I am intelligent
I am made for greatness
I am treasured and loved
Hey, I know that seems a little diva-ish, but in order to love others well or appreciate what you have around you, you have to love YOU, first. When you start to speak these acts of self love over yourself, self worth starts to pour on you like rain and wash away the dirty, slimy and smelly words of the past.
“If you will change what you’re saying, you will change what you are seeing.”
Your tongue is a ready writer and your thoughts of yourself is like your engine. What are you pouring into that gas tank? Change your perspective and I guarantee you, you will start to see the value in you that’s is already yours. Don’t rush through life and miss out on opportunities of self growth. Your time isn’t coming, your time is now! Embrace you now, one day people and the right kind of opportunities will see all that you are and what you have to offer.
Lord, I may not understand the importance of rejection, but God give me the courage to believe that you are doing a mighty thing in my life. Even when I don’t see it, even when I can’t feel it, I’m going to trust that you are right by my side – through it all. Grant me the peace and trust that I am exactly where I am meant to be. In Jesus name, Amen.
Xo, Monica Lissete